Dad’s Rules: Advice Our Writers Live By

June 14, 2011 6:59 PM

As Father’s Day approaches, we at Empirella decided to share some of the wisdom our fathers have bestowed upon us that has shaped our views of the world and ourselves. When in doubt, we often think of the men who were always on our backs but also in our corners and do our best to follow our dads’ rules.

Empirella writers and their dads

1. Mr. Ordolis
By Jamey Ordolis

My dad is full of advice and opinions, whether you want to hear them or not. Like father, like daughter (and son), I guess. But some of his expressions have more European flare than others. Case in point, he would always say, ‘These are Mickey Mouse people” in reference to people who were silly and shouldn’t be bothered with – like haters and anyone who would potentially bring my brother or I down by virtue of bad actions, bad advice or simple association. Not that he’s got anything against Disney, he’s just from Greece and Mickey Mouse is a universal children’s symbol. His attitude towards naysayers instilled confidence in my brother and I from a young age.

Another favorite expression of his, best expressed in Greek, is: Varyéte pou zí, which translates to “He (or she) is lazy to be alive” and is best used when encountering someone really lazy or bad at their job and best said (by my father) with such disdain that you would never, ever want to be that kind of person.

2. Mr. York
By Amanda York

My dad wanted us to be fearless, so he would always say of people, “The bigger they are the harder they fall.” No one could put us down or stop us from doing something, at least not if my dad had anything to say about it. The earliest memory I have of this particular philosophy is from a time when my little brother was being bullied at school and my dad didn’t want him to take it. He may have also given him a stick to walk to school with, but that aside, my father’s words have helped me to confront many types of bullies and otherwise scary people throughout my life, and I’m still standing.

3. Mr. Gilderdale
By Malcolm Gilderdale

On my 19th birthday, my father took me down to the pub, just as his father had done for him when he turned 18 (the legal drinking age in England at the time). He sat me down, and ordered us a couple of pints, and proceeded to tell me about jobs. He repeated the advice his dad had given him at their “coming of age” talk: “Find a good employer and stick with them forever. If you’re loyal to them, they’ll be loyal to you.” My dad looked me square in the eye and told me this: do the opposite of that. He was kind of sad about it, but he said the working world has changed, and you have to be loyal to yourself first.

When my grandfather took my dad out for “the talk,” he made my dad pay for the second round of pints as a lesson about the real world. My dad tried to do the same to me, but for some reason I couldn’t drink that day, so he ended up having to down two pints by himself and pay for them himself. Ah, the many subtle ways I’m a mild disappointment. But as always, it was sage advice from the best father I can imagine having.

4. Mr. Faas
By Catherine Faas

My dad isn’t the biggest talker. But what he taught me is that sometimes actions can speak louder than words. I’ve really taken this rule to heart over the years. My dad’s kind gestures during my upbringing have meant more to me than anything he could ever say. From not-so-anonymously leaving sourkey candies in the stairwell for me when he knew I was having a bad day, to making my bedroom the first stop upon returning home from work to show me his latest gadget (usually something car-related, like a keyhole defroster), to making my favourite banana Jell-O pudding decorated with a chocolate on top without me having to ask – he showed me he cared. Now whenever I want someone I love to feel special, I don’t just say it. I do it.

The photo is one of me returning the favour by surprising him with tickets to a Toronto Maple Leafs game.

5. Mr. Rohaly
By Carolyn Rohaly

“You MUST have a firm handshake. That’s always your first impression,” my father always said. To this day, people always say to me, “Wow! You have a strong handshake.”

Please share your dad’s rules and stories in the comments below. We’d love to hear them all. Have a happy Father’s Day!


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