Famous Trophy Husbands

May 26, 2011 3:05 AM

Madonna and Jesus W magazine

Ain’t nothing wrong with a good trophy husband or boyfriend. The opposite is an archaic ideal – women no longer need men for financial support, nor should they be bound to them by duty, state or desire for social rank. The middle ground – a perfect balance of love, power and wealth between two people – well, that’s hard to come by. So, if you’re the one in the position of power, why not get together or stay together for love (and maybe some good DNA)? The only caveat is that all that glitters is not always gold, so make sure he really is a trophy.

In the meantime, perhaps you can draw some lessons from these famous ladies and their trophy husbands, lovers and life partners.

10 Famous Trophy Husbands and Boyfriends

1. Elizabeth I and Robert Dudley – If you’re the Queen of England, there are few select options for marrying up or equally. Instead, Elizabeth I had “favorites” and Robert Dudley, the 1st Earl of Leicester is perhaps the most famous. When in her favor, the royal appointments and land grants he received made him one of the most powerful men in England. 

2. Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham – Stedman Graham is a stalwart choice as far as life partners go. Although he is a success in his own right (he’s the founder of Athletes Against Drugs and runs his own marketing and educational firm), he assumed the “wind beneath my wings role” as her career took off during their 25-year relationship. She’s said of him, “I do not know of another man on this planet… who could have lived this life with such dignity, with such grace and such respect and humility in it. And still hold his own and be his own.” 

3. Princess Victoria of Sweden and Prince Daniel, Duke of Västergötland – It’s the fairytale story of “The Princess and the Personal Trainer”. As the pair prepared to marry in 2009, London’s Sunday Times reported, “For the past year the court has been grooming Mr Westling, 35, who comes from a village; the hair has been cut short; he has been given designer spectacles and his baseball cap has disappeared. He now owns three gyms, which allows the press to refer to him in a slightly more dignified way as a businessman.” He’s now an official member of the Swedish Royal Family and a knight of the Royal Order of the Seraphim.

4. Britney Spears and Kevin Federline – It’s the fairytale story of “The Pop Princess and the Backup Dancer”. They did not live happily ever after.

5. Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick – Most people think he’s kind of a douche, including power-matron Kris Jenner. Of their strained relationship, Scott told Ryan Seacrest, “I figure we can bridge the gap if I start training really hard right now in either football or basketball, but I don’t know how long it would take to be in the NBA or the NFL.” In addition to his alcohol-induced outbursts on Keeping Up With the Kardashians and suspected infidelities, tabloid magazines and websites have frequently reported on the drain his lifestyle has put on Kourtney’s finances.

6. Star Jones and Al Reynolds – When Star Jones put her relationship and impending nuptials on display for the world (anything that could be sponsored in their massive 2004 wedding, was) Al was called a freeloader, gold digger, gigolo and gay. The gay thing was probably unfair – just because he’s with a chubby girl, doesn’t mean he’s gay. The rest turned out to be kind of true and they divorced after just three years. 

7. Madonna and Jesus Luz – Although more recently Madonna dated 24 year old breakdancer Brahim Zaibat, her relationship with Jesus Luz lasted longer and was much more publicized, partly because it was a case of life imitating art. The pair reportedly met on the shoot for the 2009 W Magazine spread “Blame it on Rio” featured in the photos at the top of this article. She was 50 he was 22, and perhaps more boy toy than trophy… although quite hard and shiny. 

8. Cher and Rob Camilletti – Cher met the 22-year old New York bagel baker on her 40th birthday in 1986 and their relationship lasted for at approximately 3 years. The rise and fall of his IMDB credits mirror the timeline of their relationship pretty closely and include a role as “himself” in the 1989 movie Loverboy, about a young pizza delivery boy-turned-gigolo. They’ve remained friends, and rumors of booty calls sparked up again 12 years after they stopped dating. She must have had a craving for bagels.

9. Elizabeth Taylor and Larry Fortensky – Where does a Hollywood legend meet and fall in love with a much younger blue collar construction worker? In rehab, of course. Taylor met her eighth and last husband, Larry Fortensky, at the Betty Ford Clinic and they were married at Michael Jackson’s Neverland Ranch in 1991. He didn’t quit his construction job and recently told The Daily Mail UK, “I am a proud man, and I like to work. I didn’t want her money.” She would have breakfast with him before work and bring him meals on the job in a limo. They divorced five years later but were said to have spoken on the phone twice a month for the rest of her life. She left him $800,000 in her will. After refusing to talk about her to tabloids over the years, regardless of the sums of money offered him, he opened up to The Daily Mail in this touching interview after her death in March to set the record straight about their relationship.

10. Candace Bushnell and Charles Askegard – He’s not Mr. Big. That was publisher Ron Galotti, who the Sex and the City author dated in the mid-90s. He’s not the British venture capitalist, Stephen Morris, who she dated for over two years when Sex and the City was at the peak of it popularity. He’s the ballet dancer she met right after that and married only eight weeks later. Charles Askegard is a New York City Ballet principal dancer 10 years her junior. They met at a benefit for the company in 2002. The nuptials were surprising – not because of the timeline but because of her earlier declarations that marriage left women empty and unhappy. But “One has to be open-minded when the right man comes along,” she told The New York Times. They also quoted her friend, Nadine Johnson, saying, ”I was happy for them because Candace is an alpha-female, and it’s hard to find a guy who isn’t threatened by that… But I told her every girl should be married at least once. We’re here to procreate and nurture each other in life, and for all these years she’s only been nurturing herself.”

And there you have it, ladies and gentlemen. There’s more to being a prize companion than money or power. Nurturing, companionship, loyalty  – and sometimes, being good in bed – are also qualities worth their weight in gold. We hope you all strike it very rich in love.


One Response to Famous Trophy Husbands

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